My parents were pretty scrupulous about pounding manners into my sisters and me. To this day, I do not discuss politics, money, sex or the state of anyone’s marriage in public. I also don’t pick my teeth at the dinner table or go to the grocery store wearing pajamas. At the same time my parents instilled in us a distinct sense of standing up for what you believe in. I may never discuss who I voted for in the last presidential election – but I will be damned if I allow someone to insult what I do without mentioning it.
Oh, yeah, I am totally talking about Hillary Rosen.
I have to say that my first reaction upon hearing Rosen said that Ann Romney had “never worked a day in her life,” was Bitch, please. This is 2012. As women, we have choices. If Ann Romney’s was to stay home and raise her children, then frankly I don’t think there is one person on the planet who should question that choice. (Please note, while this is a political hot potato, I am not defending or ticked off at anyone based on their political party.)
Say what you will, believe what you will; Ann Romney has a right to make the choice that is best for her and her family. Sure Romney has advantages others may not have had. She hasn’t had to choose between which bills get paid that week so she can stay home. She hasn’t had to decide if she can afford the name brand detergent that month. She hasn’t had to turn down the heat in winter so she can pay the energy bill.
But that doesn’t make her choice something that should be disparaged. In all honesty, I’ve been on both sides of the fence here. I worked when Junior was small. I quit when he was 4. And I’ll tell you, there are times when staying home was difficult – both financially and emotionally. And honestly? There were times when I was working where it was difficult financially and emotionally.
Of course, my choice isn’t right for everyone. I know women who work for a variety of reasons. Some financial, some emotional, some just because they want to get out of the dang house and love what they do. I don’t judge any of them. Each of us must make our own choices. We have to make our own sacrifices. It’s not up to someone else to judge that. We should be able to see that each one of us is doing the best we can.
And that’s where my blog would have ended, except that today Hilary Rosen came out with an apology. Personally, I think the apology was idiotic – she started with “Let’s put the faux ‘war against stay at home moms to rest.” Um, please don’t insult me, then belittle me in your apology, okay Hilary?
It’s not faux. It’s real. It happens every time women gather together a SAHM is asked what she does for a living. Seriously? I’ve been there and when asked said that I stay home. I actually had one woman, a college professor, turn away from me and begin talking to someone else. And, Hilary, FYI, it happens every time a woman stands up and says that another woman who is a SAHM has never worked a day in her life.
As I’ve said, this was not an easy blog to write. I don’t identify with either woman, to be honest. And I don’t want to discuss how much any campaign was damaged or what either side thinks about SAHMs or women or whatever.
But I just had to get this off my chest. Because as much as I do not want to talk about politics I will not be insulted by Hilary Rosen or anyone else. I was taught that by my mother, a woman who worked outside the home, but respects my choice not to do so.Add me to your rss reader | Become a Fan on Facebook!